Year: 2022

Time to retire age discrimination at work

This op-ed was originally published in The Straits Times on 24 October 2022.

One in two workers in Singapore said he or she has experienced workplace discrimination in the past five years, according to a survey of 1,000 workers by gender advocacy group the Association of Women for Action and Research (Aware) and consumer research company Milieu Insight.

Of this group, 35 per cent said they had been discriminated against on the basis of age – the second-most common reason cited, after race (41 per cent).

In view of Singapore’s ageing population, rising life expectancy and low fertility rate, how we address age discrimination in the workforce will have an impact in the coming decades.

How young is too old?

Who is considered “old” in the workplace? Both international and local research suggests that workers begin to experience age-based discrimination in their 40s, when they find themselves being offered fewer training opportunities, overlooked for promotions and targeted for redundancy.

Experiencing age-based discrimination in one’s 40s is remarkably early, given that the retirement age in Singapore is 63, and workers can be offered re-employment until they turn 67. It is even more concerning when we consider that Singapore’s retirement and re-employment ages are set to be raised to 65 and 70, respectively, by 2030.

If workplace ageism is not adequately tackled, older workers may be at risk of discrimination for nearly half their working lives. This should not sit well with a country that is trying to promote active ageing.

Negative stereotypes

Tackling it will require addressing mindsets, with a view to fairness and compassion, and recognising that older workers, with their institutional knowledge and experience, are invaluable to the workplace.

Indeed, ageism is largely driven by prejudices that employers and colleagues have against older workers being stubborn and less adaptable, as well as lacking physical capabilities and technological competence. Whether consciously or unconsciously, employers and colleagues use these stereotypes to justify discriminatory behaviour.

The economic losses of such behaviour can be substantial: A study in the United States found that economic activity lost by older Americans’ inability to find work, change careers or earn promotions due to ageism cost the economy US$850 billion (S$1.2 trillion) in lost gross domestic product in 2018.

According to the Aware-Milieu survey, the most common discrimination scenarios faced by workers aged 45 and above involved them being disadvantaged by company policies or practices due to their age and other characteristics; being subjected to discriminatory employment practices in relation to performance appraisal and promotion; and experiencing workplace harassment.

One woman who sought help at Aware’s Workplace Harassment and Discrimination Advisory was given a poor performance appraisal at work just before she reached the eligible age for re-employment. Although she had performed well during her time at the company prior to this, her service was terminated shortly after the appraisal without feedback or discussion regarding her performance.

At a focus group discussion organised by the Singapore Alliance for Women in Ageing in June this year, one participant spoke about younger colleagues telling her she should retire as she is already above 60, even though she is still able and willing to work.

Other participants said they were made to feel guilty for standing in the way of younger colleagues who could not move up to more senior job positions.

These tensions can create an unconducive and sometimes hostile work environment for older workers.Notably, the Aware-Milieu survey found that the top reason cited by those aged 55 and above for not reporting their experience was fear of professional retaliation, such as sustaining damage to their reputation or receiving negative testimonials.

While this is a common fear that victim-survivors of workplace discrimination have, retaliation from employers can be particularly detrimental to older workers, as their chances of securing a new job are often already slimmer compared with younger workers.

How to tackle the issue

The survey also asked discrimination victims who did not file official reports to describe their ideal hypothetical outcome of reporting. Nearly 30 per cent said they hoped to see the “enactment of a clear anti-discrimination and grievance handling policy within the company” – which suggests an absence of such policies or lack of effective policy communication in companies at present.

This can be easily rectified if companies implement well-defined anti-discrimination policies that cover ageism.

Employees should also be trained to recognise and report discrimination, as well as support colleagues who might be experiencing discrimination.

There are hopeful signs. At last year’s National Day Rally, Prime Minister Lee Hsien Loong announced that the Tripartite Guidelines on Fair Employment Practices would soon be enshrined in law. We hope that this law will also clearly define direct and indirect forms of discrimination, as well as discrimination-based harassment.

The list of protected characteristics should include age and gender, and workers should be protected against discrimination throughout the full employment cycle. This way, we hope ageism at work can reach its long overdue expiry date, sooner rather than later.

Ong Soh Chin

Ong Soh Chin is president of Aware, which is a member of the Singapore Alliance for Women in Ageing.

Forum: Upcoming workplace discrimination legislation must combat under-reporting

This letter was originally published in The Straits Times on 15 October 2022 

One in two individuals, or 54 per cent, who experienced workplace discrimination in Singapore in the past five years did not report it to any authorities.

This was one of many sobering findings from the recent Aware-Milieu anti-discrimination survey of 1,000 respondents.

Top reasons for not reporting included perceiving the discrimination to not be “severe” enough (36 per cent), not trusting internal/external authorities to act on the report (30 per cent) and having insufficient evidence (29 per cent).

Cases seen by the Association of Women for Action and Research’s Workplace Harassment and Discrimination Advisory (WHDA) show that institutional barriers, such as the absence of an anti-discrimination policy and dedicated human resources personnel, often drive these fears.

Discrimination in Singapore is neither defined by law nor defined by the Tripartite Alliance for Fair and Progressive Employment Practices (Tafep).

Unsurprisingly, therefore, clients often call WHDA to understand whether their experience even constitutes discrimination. These clients often work at small and medium-sized enterprises that have no workplace discrimination policy, or standards against which to evaluate a discriminatory experience.

It is only natural that employees would not report discrimination if they do not know how to interpret it.

Discrimination often occurs subtly, such as in the form of verbal harassment, where gathering black-and-white evidence is difficult.

Occasionally, there are witnesses to this harassment, but speaking up poses the risk of negative career impacts.

One pregnant WHDA client was repeatedly scolded for “taking too much leave” in front of colleagues, but these colleagues were afraid to speak up as witnesses.

Additionally, employees often hesitate to file reports if their company has a history of inaction against workplace discrimination. Many therefore wish to report their experiences only after they have resigned or had employment terminated. In 2022, three in four clients referred to Tafep by WHDA chose to do so after resigning due to their hostile work environments, or after employment was terminated.

Upcoming legislation must include a comprehensive definition of workplace discrimination to inform and encourage individuals to report. Legislation must protect employees from retaliation, so they do not feel the need to quit before seeking recourse, as well as witnesses.

Furthermore, legislation must allow for a wide variety of evidence, such as text messages, eyewitness accounts, video and audio recordings and surveillance camera footage.

Beyond legislation, a shift is ultimately needed within workplaces themselves. Mandatory sensitivity training, strong internal policies and a supportive environment can encourage employees to come forward rather than suffer in silence.

Apoorva Shukla

Executive, Workplace Harassment and Discrimination Advisory

AWARE’s Response to the Online Safety (Miscellaneous Amendments) Bill

AWARE welcomes the Online Safety (Miscellaneous Amendments) Bill that was tabled in Parliament last Monday. The announcement is timely, as the recent Sunlight AfA poll on online harms found that 31% of respondents have experienced and/or witnessed gender-based online harms in Singapore.

We are glad to see various provisions put forth, aimed at closing the digital safety gap, i.e. the gap between advances in technology and existing capabilities to ensure user safety. For one, action can be taken against online communication service providers for non-compliance with the relevant Code of Practice, regardless of where they’re located. Also, online communication service and internet access providers may also face heavy penalties (of up to $1 million and $500,000 respectively) for not stopping Singapore-based users’ access to egregious content.

Even so, we have identified areas that this bill does not address.

1. Children’s online safety

The vulnerability of children to online harms, and the need to ensure their safety, are some of the main concerns driving the introduction of this Bill.

Age verification technology has been identified by parent groups and digital rights activists as an effective strategy to reduce children’s risk of online harms. However, whether the Singapore government will mandate the use of such technology remains to be seen.

In response to MP Melvin Yong’s parliamentary question, the Ministry of Communications and Information (MCI) rightly pointed out that age verification can be tricky and involves some data protection risks. But this difficulty should not deter us from implementing the best measures we can to protect children from premature exposure to online harms via social media services or pornographic websites.

We also reiterate our recommendation to introduce a mandatory onboarding programme, and require social media services to set up a resource centre for young users. This will equip them with the necessary knowledge to stay safe online, including information on how one may report certain content or change privacy settings.

Further, the Government’s consultation paper released in July stated that social media services would be required to proactively detect and remove content containing child exploitation and abuse under the Code of Practice (in line with the UK’s Online Safety Bill and Australia’s Online Safety Act 2021). We look forward to more details in the draft Code on the mechanisms that providers will be required to implement.

2. Definition of “egregious content”

In terms of online sexual harms, the Bill includes, under the definition of “egregious content”, “content that advocates or instructs on sexual violence or [sexual] coercion” and materials depicting child sexual abuse or exploitation.

Yet it is unclear what it means to “advocate” or “instruct on” sexual violence and/or coercion. By extension, it’s also unclear whether “egregious content” will encompass all forms of technology-facilitated sexual violence (e.g. non-consensually obtained and/or distributed sexual images).

We seek greater clarity on the kinds of content that this category covers, and hope that illustrative examples of each type of “egregious content” will be provided.

3. Modes of communication covered

As it stands, the Bill regulates online communication, but electronic services including SMS and  MMS services as well as direct messages (DMs) are explicitly excluded from its scope. This means that members of private chat groups in which sexual images and videos are shared non-consensually, such as the SG Nasi Lemak Telegram group, will not be held accountable under this Bill.

Recent reports on online harms have highlighted the pervasiveness of abuse perpetrated through DMs: A 2021 UNESCO study on online violence against women journalists found that of the online threats they experienced, almost half came in the form of harassing DMs. In another study by the Centre for Countering Digital Harm, researchers observed that 1 in 15 DMs sent by strangers to high-profile women violated Instagram’s Community Standards. Around 1 in 4 abusive images and videos sent were considered image-based sexual abuse.

We strongly encourage the Bill’s scope of coverage to be expanded to include SMS services, MMS services and DMs, to strengthen protection from online harms in all user-to-user interactions.

4. Duties of providers 

Although providers face penalties for failing to stop access to egregious content, the Bill does not mention what the take-down process will look like, e.g. how quickly users can expect reported content to be taken down. In cases of non-consensual distribution of intimate images or videos, rapid take-down is crucial to containing spread and minimising further harm on victim-survivors.

In Australia, providers must remove non-consensually distributed content within 24 hours of the eSafety Commissioner issuing a removal notice. Singapore should similarly stipulate a timeframe within which providers must comply with a take-down notice.

Additionally, we hope that the Government will clarify how providers will be assessed to have taken “all reasonably practicable steps” to comply with directions issued by the Info-communications Media Development Authority (IMDA).

5. Trauma-informed and gender-responsive approach

Trauma-informed and gender-responsive training should be provided to any IMDA staff handling complaints and take-down requests from end-users. This will enable the staff to provide non-judgmental support to victim-survivors and reduce their risk of re-traumatisation during investigations.

We look forward to these clarifications being made in the second reading of the Bill and in the draft Code of Practice.

Refer to our submission to the public consultation on Enhancing Online Safety For Users in Singapore, made to MCI in August 2022, here.

AWARE’s Position on Section 424 of the Criminal Procedure Code

Section 424 of Singapore’s Criminal Procedure Code (CPC) was introduced with the intent of ensuring that serious crimes are reported to the police and perpetrators taken to task. It states in summary that every person aware of the commission of, or the intention of any other person to commit, any arrestable offence listed in Section 424 must, in the absence of reasonable excuse, immediately give that information to the police.

Today, Section 424 of the CPC is being reviewed by the government. As it stands, the list of arrestable offences covers sexual assault, including rape.

However, various parties’ obligation to file a police report is not clear. Nor is it clear what qualifies as a “reasonable excuse” not to file a report.

SUPPORTING SEXUAL ASSAULT SURVIVORS

AWARE’s Sexual Assault Care Centre (SACC) has been providing support services to survivors of sexual assault since its launch in May 2014. The centre was developed from AWARE’s Sexual Assault Befrienders Service, which had previously launched in 2011.

Sexual assault, including rape, is often traumatic, and it can take a long time for survivors to recover. We adopt a trauma-informed approach when supporting survivors: prioritising their physical and emotional safety and their agency, and empowering them to make informed decisions about their lives and recovery journeys.

Over the last five years, SACC has seen an increase in sexual assault cases. The total number of cases served by the centre exceeded 1,000 cases in 2020, and again in 2021.

In almost 80% of these cases, the perpetrator of sexual assault had been acquainted with the survivor in some way. The majority of survivors experienced some form of physical sexual violence: More than 60% experienced physical sexual harassment, rape and/or sexual assault by penetration.

AWARE’S APPROACH TO FILING A POLICE REPORT

When clients come to SACC for support, we provide them with all the information they need to come to an informed decision about filing a police report, including legal advice.

When clients are unsure of their prospective success of taking perpetrators to task due to lack of evidence, we highlight the deterrent effects of filing a police report. If they are afraid of filing a police report by themselves, SACC staff accompany them to the police station.

We generally do not file police reports on behalf of our clients. This is because survivors who come to SACC are doing so primarily to seek psychological and emotional support. They need not necessarily disclose full case details to us for this purpose, and we might not always be aware of all the facts of their case.

We also recognise that the agency of a survivor is central to the recovery process. Filing a police report without their consent would likely put tremendous psychological stress on survivors, and compound existing feelings of helplessness and loss of control.

The exceptions to the above are: when we cannot determine that the client or a related person is safe, or when the case involves minors under the age of 16 and there is no other relevant authority involved (e.g. the Early Childhood Development Agency, school, social worker or protective adult such as a parent).

In such circumstances, we would alert either the police or Child Protective Services, who might be better placed to help the child make a police report at some future point.

PERSISTENT UNDER-REPORTING OF SEXUAL ASSAULT CASES

In spite of our best efforts to support survivors and provide relevant information, we know that many who experience sexual assault ultimately do not file police reports.

In 2020, 7 in 10 clients seen by SACC did not file police reports. We understand that most of these clients chose not to report because they:

  1. Were worried about how their families or friends would react (58% of N=190 cases surveyed);
  2. Feared that they would not be believed or that they did not have enough evidence (60% of N=190 cases surveyed).

Many survivors understand that engaging the criminal justice system can be a drawn-out process. Also, having to recall and recount violent incidents during the investigation process may cause them to experience re-traumatisation, impeding their recovery.

As survivors are acquainted with their perpetrators in majority of the cases, many survivors also might not want to file police reports in order to prevent their perpetrator from being convicted of a crime, and to prevent the relationship from becoming irreparable.

INTERNATIONAL FINDINGS

International studies have shown that mandatory reporting deters survivors from seeking support. Many countries with similar mandatory reporting laws—such as the United States, Australia and Canada—have either abolished the law or extensively clarified the obligations under the law.

In a 2020 study* looking at the impact of mandatory reporting laws on survivors of intimate partner violence in the USA, more than a third of the sample (N=2,462) did not seek potential support for fear that their experiences of violence would be reported to an official or authority figure. Of those who received warnings that certain offences had to be reported, about 60% (N=341) said that the warning changed what they chose to disclose about their domestic violence and abuse, with some withholding information and/or misrepresenting their experiences.

*Lippy, C., Jumarali, S.N., Nnawulezi, N.A. et al. The Impact of Mandatory Reporting Laws on Survivors of Intimate Partner Violence: Intersectionality, Help-Seeking and the Need for Change. J Fam Vol 35, 255–267 (2020). https://doi.org/10.1007/s10896-019-00103-w

RECOMMENDATIONS FOR THE REVIEW OF SECTION 424

Our experience, in line with international findings, is that mandatory reporting deters survivors from seeking help, and that it runs counter to the goal of encouraging reports to the police.

If making a police report was the condition upon which support was offered to survivors, many would likely withhold or withdraw information from social service agencies (SSAs).

Section 424 of the CPC needs to be reviewed in a way that strikes a balance between law enforcement and minimising re-traumatisation. It must recognise the well-being of survivors, and recognise that safety, transparency, autonomy and collaborative process are integral to supporting their recovery.

In this regard, we propose the following recommendations.

First, SSAs should not have to report on behalf of adult survivors unless there is risk that the survivor is unsafe. This will ensure that adult survivors are not deterred from seeking help when they need it. SSAs should have the discretion to balance client trust and confidentiality with prospective danger, via the following definition of reasonable excuse: “Reasonable excuse” exists where a Social Service Agency reasonably determines that:

  • It is necessary to maintain client trust and confidentiality in respect of the information that would otherwise trigger a S424 duty, so as to effectively provide that support and assistance; and
  • The risk of prospective danger to the client or another person is not sufficiently clear or significant as to outweigh the need for trust and confidentiality. (The fact that an assailant has not been identified or apprehended should not by itself be taken to establish such a risk.)

Second, reporting can be mandatory when the case involves minors below the age of 18, in line with the definition of a “young person” set out in the Children and Young Persons Act. This is because minors below 18 are not of legal or statutory age to make the right decisions for themselves.

Third, companies should have a legal duty outside existing criminal law and in labour laws—such as the Employment Act or the forthcoming workplace discrimination legislation—to take disciplinary action for inappropriate behaviour and put in place proper training and processes to address them. When appropriate, serious cases can be reported to the police.

CONCLUDING REMARKS

We understand the importance of taking sexual violence perpetrators to task to prevent further assaults. However, more can be done to clarify mandatory obligations to report under the Section 424 of the CPC.

AWARE is happy to work with the government and to provide any further information needed for the review of Section 424 of the CPC.

26 November 2022: Sexual Assault First Responder Training (Online Session)

“Are you sure that happened? Why didn’t you fight back? You should have known better.” These are some common responses survivors of sexual assault have heard, which may further their feelings of doubt, guilt and shame.

It is not always easy for survivors to tell someone about what happened; in fact, for some survivors, it can be especially daunting. So the way their loved ones respond becomes pivotal in their journey of recovery. First response that is sensitive to a survivor’s needs and choices is necessary in preventing re-victimisation.

This Sexual Assault First Responder Training helps familiarise participants with trauma reactions and symptoms to better contribute to a survivor’s well-being. In this workshop, we will share more on the following:

  • Definition of sexual assault and harassment
  • Recognising Singapore’s legal framework
  • Understanding consent
  • Understanding the impact of sexual assault and trauma on survivors
  • Role of a first responder
  • Providing support to survivors of sexual assault
  • Resources available for help
  • Key skills such as ensuring safety, active listening and empathy

We want this workshop to be accessible to everyone, and require your generous contribution to keep it running. While you are welcome to give any amount you wish, we suggest a minimum of $30 per person. No tax deduction will be provided. Note that Eventbrite requires a minimum contribution of $1. If you require a waiver of this minimum contribution, please email gec@aware.org.sg.

Note as well that we are unable to accommodate transfers and cancellations if participants are unable to attend after payment has been made.

Persons of all genders and nationalities are more than welcome to attend.

We strongly request that all participants commit to the full duration of the 3-hour workshop (there are breaks!) to ensure that everyone will get the opportunity to engage in interactive discussions and learn useful skills.

Date: Sunday, 26 November 2022

Time: 2PM – 5PM

Venue: Online (Via Zoom). Please note this workshop will be online only (Singapore time). Participants will be emailed the Zoom link shortly before the session date. As a commitment to this training we will be asking all participants to turn on their video throughout the session.

Entry Fee: This event is contribute-what-you-can. Suggested contribution of $30 per person.

Register here!

26 October 2022: Sexual Assault First Responder Training (Online Session)

“Are you sure that happened? Why didn’t you fight back? You should have known better.” These are some common responses survivors of sexual assault have heard, which may further their feelings of doubt, guilt and shame.

It is not always easy for survivors to tell someone about what happened; in fact, for some survivors, it can be especially daunting. So the way their loved ones respond becomes pivotal in their journey of recovery. First response that is sensitive to a survivor’s needs and choices is necessary in preventing re-victimisation.

This Sexual Assault First Responder Training helps familiarise participants with trauma reactions and symptoms to better contribute to a survivor’s well-being. In this workshop, we will share more on the following:

  • Definition of sexual assault and harassment
  • Recognising Singapore’s legal framework
  • Understanding consent
  • Understanding the impact of sexual assault and trauma on survivors
  • Role of a first responder
  • Providing support to survivors of sexual assault
  • Resources available for help
  • Key skills such as ensuring safety, active listening and empathy

We want this workshop to be accessible to everyone, and require your generous contribution to keep it running. While you are welcome to give any amount you wish, we suggest a minimum of $30 per person. No tax deduction will be provided. Note that Eventbrite requires a minimum contribution of $1. If you require a waiver of this minimum contribution, please email gec@aware.org.sg.

Note as well that we are unable to accommodate transfers and cancellations if participants are unable to attend after payment has been made.

Persons of all genders and nationalities are more than welcome to attend.

We strongly request that all participants commit to the full duration of the 3-hour workshop (there are breaks!) to ensure that everyone will get the opportunity to engage in interactive discussions and learn useful skills.

Date: Sunday, 26 October 2022

Time: 6PM – 9PM

Venue: Online (Via Zoom). Please note this workshop will be online only (Singapore time). Participants will be emailed the Zoom link shortly before the session date. As a commitment to this training we will be asking all participants to turn on their video throughout the session.

Entry Fee: This event is contribute-what-you-can. Suggested contribution of $30 per person.

Register here!

 

19 October 2022: Living in Limbo – Gender and housing insecurity in Singapore

IMPORTANT: The venue has changed to Lee Kuan Yew School of Public Policy, Manasseh Meyer Building, Seminar Room 3-5. Kindly also note that Project Executive Lee Yoke Mun will replace Corinna Lim in representing AWARE.

Housing is a basic need. So why is it that in Singapore—a nation widely recognised for its comprehensive public housing programme—many people still encounter housing barriers? Women, in particular, face greater challenges, whether accessing housing as single mothers or encountering difficulties when rough sleeping.

To commemorate the United Nations International Day for the Eradication of Poverty, this panel event will draw upon a growing body of local research about the gendered realities of housing insecurity in Singapore. This includes AWARE’s recently concluded evaluation of the Support, Housing and Enablement (S.H.E.) Project, a research-based service that provided stable and decent housing, alongside transformational support programmes, for 18 low-income single-mother families; AWARE’s earlier work on single mothers’ access to public housing; the nationwide street counts of homelessness done by the Social Inclusion Project (SIP, at the Lee Kuan Yew School of Public Policy); and the Minimum Income Standard studies on the costs of a basic standard of living in Singapore.

Our panel of speakers brings together the voices of advocacy and research as well as women who have experienced housing insecurity firsthand. They will discuss the difficulties single mothers face in securing stable housing; the unique challenges of homelessness for women; the implications of recent debates about living costs and the definition of family; and the policy changes that still need to happen. What might adequate housing for everyone—including those with the fewest means—look like? Join us as we attempt to find an answer.

Date: Wednesday, 19 October 2022

Time: 7pm – 8.30pm

Venue: Lee Kuan Yew School of Public Policy, Manasseh Meyer Building, Seminar Room 3-5 [changed from Seminar Room 2-1]

Fee: This event is contribute-what-you-can. Suggested contribution of $5 per head.

Register here!

Our panellists

Stephanie Chok (moderator)

Dr Stephanie Chok is an independent researcher who received her PhD from Murdoch University, Western Australia. Her PhD focused on the precariousness of low-paid temporary migrant workers in Singapore, and the thesis was runner-up in the 2015 Asian Studies Association of Australia President’s Prize for Best Thesis on Asia. For the last 10 years, she has volunteered and worked in non-governmental organisations and been involved in multiple research and advocacy projects, including authoring research reports on wage theft, forced labour, income inequality and food insecurity.

Jeyda Simren Sekhon Atac

Jeyda Simren Sekhon Atac is a Research Assistant in the Social Inclusion Project at the Lee Kuan Yew School of Public Policy. As part of her research focus, she co-authored the recent research report entitled “Seeking Shelter: Homeless during the COVID-19 Pandemic”. She completed her Masters in Comparative and International Education at the University of Oxford, where she was a Leading for Impact Fellow, after receiving her Bachelor of Arts in Politics and Sociology at the University of Cambridge. She also volunteers widely, both in Singapore and remotely, with initiatives working to create social impact internationally.

Liyana Dhamirah

Having gone through a period of homelessness, Liyana has emerged stronger through her struggles and even wrote the award-winning book Homeless: The Untold Story of a Mother’s Struggle in Crazy Rich Singapore. She is also a contributing writer for White: Behind Mental Health Stigma and the recipient of the “Woman of Resilience” award from AWARE in 2019. Liyana was invited to deliver her maiden speech on the TEDx Singapore stage. Work and life as a mother of four keeps her busy, but in between it all, Liyana actively advocates for lower-income and under-privileged families.

Lee Yoke Mun

Lee Yoke Mun is a Project Executive at AWARE. Her work at the women’s rights NGO focuses on advocating for low-income women and comprehensive sexuality education. She also coordinates some of AWARE’s community programmes, including its community Sexual Assault First Responder Trainings and Birds & Bees workshops for parents.

13 October 2022: Birds & Bees, the Essentials – a Workshop for Parents

“I would highly recommend this excellent programme to all parents. It helps equip parents with valuable information and skill sets that lead to far-reaching benefits in our youths.”

— Dr Tan E-Ching, medical director of Hallmark Health

“I had not thought about the nuances of consent and being an ‘askable’ parent. It got me thinking… I loved how [the facilitators] were so sensitive and respectful, as this topic can be so turbulent for many people.”

— Nandini, parent and Birds & Bees participant

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Are you aware of what your child knows (and doesn’t know) about relationships and sex?

Are you avoiding such topics because “they’ve learnt about it in school already”?

Are you confident your child knows enough to handle difficult situations?

Birds & Bees: The Essentials is an experiential two-hour workshop that will equip you with the necessary information so you can plan conversations with your child on consent, relationships and sex. You never know: some of the tips may even help you and your child enjoy such conversations!

Note: This is a special, condensed version of our regular Birds & Bees workshop, which typically spans three sessions on multiple days. Learn more about Birds & Bees here.

During this workshop, you’ll learn more about:

  • Importance of parental communication (and some tips!)
  • Consent (we all know the black and white, but what about the grey areas?)
  • Sexual assault (facts vs. myths)

Date: Thursday, 13 October 2022
Time: 7:30-9:30pm
Venue: Online (Zoom)
Workshop Fee: Promotional rate of $10.70 (with GST) (Full Birds & Bees editions are priced at $20)

Register here!

Survey: After you sign up, you will be asked to complete a short pre-workshop survey about the age(s) and number of your children. This is so that parents with children of similar ages can be grouped together to that you will get the most out of the workshop.

Special instructions for online workshop: As small-group discussions are a big part of the workshop, participants are expected to switch on their video as well as audio whenever possible, and to join in the discussions for maximum benefit.

Refunds and cancellations: Unfortunately we will not be offering refunds. In exceptional circumstances, you can attend the next run of the workshop if you write in to publiceducation@aware.org.sg in advance giving your reasons.

*If you would like to join the workshop but cannot make it at this time, please fill in the indication of interest form.

2 October 2022: What We Inherit x City Book Room

What does it mean to be an Indian woman in Singapore? Join us for a panel on navigating Indian identity and gender.

“What is an Indian person supposed to look like?”

For Indian women in Singapore, questions that cast doubt on their identities are all too common. Expressions of identity that go against stereotype are often met with confusion and uncertainty – for example, when the race on their IC isn’t “Indian”, or when they study Chinese in school instead of Tamil.

These complications of Indian womanhood, among others, are explored at length in What We Inherit: Growing Up Indian, AWARE’s anthology of personal essays and poems by Indian women. Since the book’s launch in July, these stories have inspired stimulating discussions on gender and race in Singapore. We want to keep the conversation going!

Join us at City Book Room on 2 October, 3pm, for a free panel discussion and Q&A with three authors from What We Inherit: ila, Saraniyah D/O Saravanan and Jeyda Simren Sekhon Ataç. They’ll unpack their personal essays about Indian womanhood. Look forward to revelations about identities that fall outside of CMIO markers, feelings of displacement and writing as catharsis.

We’ll have copies for sale of both What We Inherit and Growing Up Perempuan, AWARE’s previous collection of Malay and Muslim women’s stories, at the venue. Also for sale: the zine (Re)collections: Postcards from Afar (proceeds go towards AWARE’s Helpline fundraising campaign).

This is an in-person event. Because the space is small, we only have a limited number of places available, so be sure to sign up quickly!

Date: Sunday, 2 October 2022
Time: 3PM – 5PM
Venue: City Book Room – 387 Joo Chiat Road #03-02 Singapore, 427623
Entry Fee: Free

Register here!