Year: 2023

AWARE joins hands with Bumble to make Singapore’s online dating ecosystem safer

Bumble recently announced it’s new anti-abuse tip line, designed to remove the burden on reporting abusive and dangerous behaviour on the app, and AWARE is proud to be the first NGO to partner with them in Singapore.

Under this partnership, AWARE will be onboarded onto a platform that provides a pathway to a tip line for organisations to report harmful or dangerous individuals to Bumble’s dedicated Member Safety team. If these individuals are found to be attempting to use the app, they face receiving a warning from Bumble or even having their profiles permanently removed from the platform. This partnership seeks to help mitigate the burden placed on victim-survivors to report these harms while ensuring that dangerous individuals are proactively removed from the Bumble platform. 

This reporting pathway is powered by Kodex, a secure information sharing portal currently employed by Bumble to communicate with law enforcement agencies around the world. This new tip line, developed specifically for NGOs and charities who work with victim-survivors, is housed separately to any law enforcement communications. While this process is only open to NGOs and charitable organisations, individuals can still report a dangerous or harmful individual to Bumble through our in-app reporting mechanism, online contact form, or through our social support function. 

“Bumble is an app built by women, for everyone. Safety has been central to our mission from day one, and we are proud to be able to work with AWARE in an effort to further restrict harmful individuals from being able to access our platform in Singapore,” Lucille McCart, APAC Communications Director at Bumble said.

“At Bumble we believe victim-survivors and we understand the burden that can be placed on survivors to report experiences of harm to us. This is just one way that we are taking a sensitive and trauma-informed approach to safety.  We are proud to work with organisations like AWARE who share the same vision of protecting women, and we welcome more to join us to pave the way for a safer and more positive online dating experience.”

The event also featured a discussion panel, covering a wide range of topics from the role platform providers play a part in making the dating scene safer for women, to how individuals and the community can support the people who have experienced tech-facilitated sexual violence or TFSV.

One in four of the clients who came to AWARE’s Sexual Assault Care Centre (SACC) in 2021 did so as a result of having been the victim of TFSV.

Half of those cases involved image-based sexual abuse, which involves sexual, nude, or intimate images or videos of another person, and in 17% of all cases, the perp was a dating app contact.

Most of the victims of TFSV we saw were young adults, with the 18–34 age groups being the most affected.

“TFSV is a digital threat that cuts across all demographics, regardless of one’s age or gender, and, sadly, perpetrators take advantage of the anonymity and ease of access and use of online platforms to carry out such violence,” Sugidha Nithianathan (left), Director of Advocacy, Research and Communications at AWARE, said. “Online dating can be a murky space to navigate, but Bumble has been dedicated in making the experience safer for everyone. From implementing mechanisms that protect individuals from accessing unwanted images, to kickstarting discussions about equitable relationships in Singapore, we welcome the initiatives taken by Bumble thus far.

“We are happy to be part of this partnership with Bumble. We share Bumble’s values of kindness, respect, and equality, and we believe this is a critical service that will help users navigate the online space more safely.”

18 November 2023: Sexual Assault First Responder Training (Online Session)

“Are you sure that happened? Why didn’t you fight back? You should have known better.” These are some common responses survivors of sexual assault have heard, which may further their feelings of doubt, guilt and shame.

It is not always easy for survivors to tell someone about what happened; in fact, for some survivors, it can be especially daunting. So the way their loved ones respond becomes pivotal in their journey of recovery. First response that is sensitive to a survivor’s needs and choices is necessary in preventing re-victimisation.

This Sexual Assault First Responder Training helps familiarise participants with trauma reactions and symptoms to better contribute to a survivor’s well-being. In this workshop, we will share more on the following:

  • Definition of sexual assault and harassment
  • Recognising Singapore’s legal framework
  • Understanding consent
  • Understanding the impact of sexual assault and trauma on survivors
  • Role of a first responder
  • Providing support to survivors of sexual assault
  • Resources available for help
  • Key skills such as ensuring safety, active listening and empathy

We want this workshop to be accessible to everyone, and require your generous contribution to keep it running. While you are welcome to give any amount you wish, we suggest a minimum of $30 per person. No tax deduction will be provided. Note that Eventbrite requires a minimum contribution of $1. If for financial reasons you require a waiver of this minimum contribution, please email gec@aware.org.sg.

Note as well that we are unable to accommodate transfers and cancellations if participants are unable to attend after payment has been made.

Persons of all genders and nationalities are more than welcome to attend.

We strongly request that all participants commit to the full duration of the 3-hour workshop (there are breaks!) to ensure that everyone will get the opportunity to engage in interactive discussions and learn useful skills.

Date: Saturday, 18 November 2023

Time: 2 – 5PM

Venue: Online (Via Zoom). Please note this workshop will be online only (Singapore time). Participants will be emailed the Zoom link shortly before the session date. As a commitment to this training we will be asking all participants to turn on their video throughout the session.

Entry Fee: This event is contribute-what-you-can. Suggested contribution of $30 per person.

Register Here! 

29 Sept 2023: Closure of Women’s Care Centre and Sexual Assault Care Centre

The Women’s Care Centre (WCC) and Sexual Assault Care Centre (SACC) will be closed for one day on 29 September 2023 (Friday). During this period, all WCC and SACC services will be unavailable. Service will resume from Monday, 2 October onwards.

Our Workplace Harassment and Discrimination Advisory Helpline (6777 0318) will remain fully operational during this time.

If you have experienced sexual assault within the last 72 hours, you may refer to this page for suggested actions.

If you require support, you may reach out to these alternatives:

  • National Anti-Violence Helpline (24-hour, for reporting of domestic and sexual violence): 1800 777 0000
  • Samaritans of Singapore (24-hour, for coping with self-harm or suicidal ideation):
  • IMH Helpline (24-hour, for mental health crisis): 6389 2222
  • ComCare Helpline (7am-12am, to locate your nearest Family Service Centre): 1800 222 0000
  • Care Corner Helpline (10am-10pm, for emotional support for Mandarin speakers): 1800 3535 800
  • Community Justice Centre (Mon-Fri, 10am-12.30pm, 1.30pm-4pm, 20 minutes free legal information, walk ins only, first-come-first-serve basis)
  • Law Society Pro Bono Legal Clinic Services (Free legal information, appointments needed)
  • Police 999, Medical assistance 995 (If you or someone you know is in danger or has an emergency)

We seek your kind understanding and patience. Thank you.

Response to child sexual abuse case

[TW: Child sexual abuse] 

This is the first case we have heard of in which pornography was explicitly identified as the perpetrator’s motive for sexually assaulting his victim, beginning 12 years ago when she was only nine years old.

In a statement to Today in 2021, the Ministry of Social and Family Development shared that early exposure to pornographic materials may be a factor in sexual offending: “Repeated exposure and (self-pleasuring) to deviant pornography, such as those depicting children, violence and voyeurism, can also shape a young person’s sexual arousal pattern and lead some of them to develop deviant or atypical sexual interests, which they may eventually seek to satisfy through their sexual offending behaviours.”    

With explicit content becoming more easily accessible online, it is now more important than ever to advocate for comprehensive sexuality education (CSE), which includes porn literacy, to equip young people with the skills needed to distinguish between scenes depicted in porn and reality, as well as to understand the sometimes misogynistic and violent elements of porn. There has also been a lot of research done on the destructive influence of porn and its bad representation of women. 

But in order for CSE to be truly effective, parents must play a role. AWARE’s Birds & Bees workshop helps parents start and sustain important conversations with their children about sex, in a non-judgmental way. It can, among other things,  help parents introduce crucial information about consent, personal boundaries, and safety to their children.

Another troubling feature of the case is that the victim “didn’t know what was going on” because she was so young. It further emphasises the necessity of CSE for children, especially those as young as this victim, as it will provide them with critical knowledge such as understanding boundaries when it comes to their bodies, recognising sexual harassment, comprehending consent, and articulating what they have experienced. 

A Recap: ‘For Good Reason’, A Panel on Workplace Accommodations

On August 17 2023, around 50 people attended a virtual event titled ‘For Good Reason: A Panel on Workplace Accommodations’ to discuss how companies can create policies to help all individuals thrive and how such inclusive measures in turn benefit the companies.

Organised by the Disabled People’s Association (DPA) and AWARE, the session was moderated by Anthea Ong, a mental health advocate, social entrepreneur, and former NMP. Joining her on the panel were AWARE Executive Director Corinna Lim; DPA Research and Policy Manager Max Soh; Head of DEI, APAC at Mediabrands, Dharesheni Nedumaran; and Yap Qian Yin, a business analyst and former Paralympian.

The panel discussion was contextualised within the Ministry of Manpower’s recent acceptance of the Tripartite Committee’s recommendations for the Workplace Fairness Legislation (WFL). The panellists acknowledged this as a step in the right direction, though they pointed out some remaining gaps which will still leave certain groups of workers vulnerable.

Notably, the WFL only outlines the right for employees to request reasonable accommodations for disabilities, of which there is a stringent definition. An upcoming Tripartite Advisory, which will have no legal authority, will be in charge of monitoring any other worker’s right to reasonable accommodations. The question arises: How can workplaces facilitate reasonable accommodation requests to get the best out of a company’s workforce?

The necessity of reasonable accommodations in the workplace

According to the International Labour Organisation, reasonable accommodations refer to ‘any modification or adjustment to a job or to a workplace that is reasonably practical to enable [employees] to have access to, participate in, or advance in employment’. 

The panellists had a robust discussion built upon this definition. From Max’s perspective, reasonable accommodations were “essential modifications for individuals, not just persons with disabilities, to do work effectively”. Sharing his experiences as a legally blind person, he emphasised that any individual could face different barriers that impede their work capabilities. 

Corinna further highlighted that it is not just people with disabilities who are affected. The AWARE director pointed out that the workplace has always been designed for men or those without caregiving responsibilities. Today, reasonable accommodations are key to supporting a wide range of workers, including people with disabilities, caregivers, pregnant women, and older people. It also includes adjustments or modifications to an employee’s role or work environment that can help meet their specific needs. 

Similar accommodations have been legislated, with Corinna pointing out that “people don’t think about them as reasonable accommodations, but that is what they are”. 

Reasonable accommodations benefit all

Reasonable accommodations are crucial to enabling an environment where employees can perform at their best, which ultimately benefits both employers and employees. For Qian Yin, COVID-19 enabled greater flexibility in the workplace, which she “benefitted greatly as a wheelchair user”. She detailed the importance of access to basic facilities, sharing that she almost turned down the offer from her existing employer due to the lack of a handicapped toilet in her building. As Dharesheni puts it, the point of reasonable accommodations is “to remove those barriers that prevent someone from working”, allowing organisations to have a diverse workforce and fully capitalise on the full extent of their employees capabilities. 

An employer who supports reasonable accommodations for their team is also able to exercise effective leadership to deliver better outputs for their company. As Anthea noted, at the core of business and leadership is for employers to “take care of the humans under their charge”. 

Reframing the narrative 

The panellists agreed that it is time to reframe reasonable accommodations as a gain rather than a cost, as a cornerstone of good leadership rather than overburdening employers. Oftentimes, conversations about reasonable accommodations are underlined by biassed assumptions that someone cannot do the job properly. To Max, the main point to drive home was that “reasonable accommodations are a useful tool; a reasonable accommodation, after all, is not special treatment. Rather, it is the removal of barriers to enable more efficient and productive workflows”.

Another common perceived cost of reasonable accommodations is the potential for abuse, where employees take advantage of employers with their requests. As the panellists discussed, the likelihood of abuse from the employee is slim; these individuals are already dealing with a lot, and there is little to suggest abuse. As Corinna puts it, this argument against reasonable accommodations is “a red herring”. 

A gentle approach forward

Employees can advocate for themselves gently yet powerfully. Qian Yin spoke about how she did not “put forward a half fight”; instead, she “put forward entirely what is required”. Corinna agreed, emphasising that employees should “take care of the question marks” so employers can better understand what is required to offer support. 

Gathering support from allies in the workplace can also aid in calling out resistance to reasonable accommodations. Qian Yin spoke about how she respectfully advocated for herself in the workplace, sharing her story with colleagues to build momentum towards “a louder voice to push” for a handicapped toilet. Her small victory spoke volumes about the power of sharing stories so workplaces can learn how to better support each other. 

From a mindset of resistance to one of support

There are a multitude of ways in which employers can support employees in requesting reasonable accommodations. An effective and visible action is to have an employment policy that can guide employees in making reasonable accommodation requests. This then facilitates an open conversation where employees can request and employers can negotiate.

Having conversations about reasonable accommodations should be an interactive process that culminates in a shared agreement. Dharesheni stated that employers can have a policy that tracks whether reasonable accommodations are effective for them. Anthea added that having open conversations does not mean a floodgate is being opened. Rather, it’s about operating from a mindset of diversity and inclusion instead of discrimination.

The panel considered the difficulties encountered in offering reasonable accommodations for individuals with invisible disabilities. Anthea acknowledged the challenges that employers may face in accommodating different needs. In response, Max emphasised that reasonable accommodations should be approached on a case-by-case basis in a manner that does not “compromise the nature or output of the work”. Flexibility in these conversations is essential to “human-centred” leadership that recognises the unique needs of each employee.

Max also highlighted that there are organisations that can support workplaces in implementing reasonable accommodations, such as funds and grants which can cover financial costs involved in providing reasonable accommodations. There are also considerable resources available from organisations such as AWARE and DPA so employers “don’t have to go in alone”. 

The next reasonable step

While legislating reasonable accommodation seems out of scope currently, the panel acknowledged that the next big fight will lie in legislating policy changes. In the meantime, the conversation certainly does not end here. We must continue to push as a community as we enter this new era of workplace fairness.

Voices for Change: Fund a Gender-Equal Future with AWARE

What does it take to be a voice for change? It often begins with a whisper, a listening ear, and a desire to make a different choice.

In a quiet corner of the university library, Qian Qian listened intently as her classmate shared her story of sexual assault. Moved by her friend’s experience, Qian Qian turned to AWARE’s Sexual Assault First Responder Training. Her journey from attending the programme to stepping up as its trainer gave her the courage and knowledge to not only support her classmate but also to successfully advocate for better institutional policies against sexual assault.

Elsewhere, in the streets of Singapore’s heartland, Ghaz grappled with the rigidity of masculine norms. With AWARE’s guidance, he transformed his frustrations into action. Today, he’s an integral part of AWARE’s comprehensive sexual education initiative, imparting the importance of respect, equality, and consent to young minds.

Then there’s Sham. A survivor of a traumatic event in her youth, she once buried her pain, seeking to move past it. But with AWARE’s guidance, she didn’t just find closure; she became the driving force behind AWARE’s community outreach, empowering countless others to find strength in their voices.

Each of these individuals, from different walks of life, found a common thread: AWARE. Their stories are at the heart of our ‘Voices for Change’ campaign.

AWARE is more than just an organisation; it’s a community of hope, resilience, and transformation.

While initiatives like the Women’s Helpline and Sexual Assault Care Centre offer immediate solace, AWARE’s broader mission is to build a society where there is true gender equality—where individuals are free to make informed and responsible choices about their lives.

The impact of AWARE’s work is evident in the recent legislative changes, such as the inclusion of emotional and psychological abuse in the definition of family violence and the introduction of anti-discrimination legislation. However, this progress needs your support to continue.

Every contribution will go directly towards our ability to continue providing trauma-informed services, public education, and advocacy.

Together, let’s shape a world where voices rise, stories empower, and change is not just a hope, but a reality. With your help, we can:
  • Ensure that CARE continues to provide trauma-informed services to individuals in need
  • Empower members of the public to sensitively educate their children and support each other around concepts of consent and respect
  • Conduct important research into under-examined areas like coercive control and technology-facilitated abuse

All donations will be matched by (100%) the Tote Board and government.

Thank you for your support!

The above impact statements are for illustrative purposes only. All donations received will be used to support AWARE’s programmes and services under the VFC fund.

The Feminist Club presents: Brazen Hussies

Join us for an evening of empowerment and celebration at the AWARE Centre. We will be screening Brazen Hussies and hosting Dr Barbara Baird, an Australian feminist activist and scholar of gender and sexuality studies at Flinders University!

About the movie:

From the radical arm of the ‘Women’s Libbers’ to the reform-focused groups such as the Women’s Electoral Lobby, Brazen Hussies shows the diversity of women involved, and the collective power it took to achieve change. The film explores how ASIO spied on the movement, the pushback by the male-dominated media, and the impact of internal struggles within the movement. These struggles are laid bare to show how the activities of a small group of determined women grew into a huge social movement and ultimately changed the lives and opportunities of ALL women.

Get ready to be inspired by powerful women who have fearlessly challenged the status quo. After the movie screening, stay for a discussion with Barbara, where we will delve into a variety of topics, from intersectional feminism to gender equality, through engaging and thought-provoking conversations.

Refreshments will be provided.

We invite AWARE members to bring along a non-member friend to enjoy a special discount!
Book your tickets now!

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Ticket Cost:

  • AWARE member: $15
  • AWARE members and a plus one: $25
  • General admission (non-member): $18

Don’t miss out on this incredible opportunity to be a part of the AWARE community. Join us and let’s have a great evening together!

Research respondents needed: Transnational families in Singapore

Do you belong to a transnational family living in Singapore? Take part in a new joint study by South Central Community Family Service Center (SCC) and AWARE’s Advocacy and Research department.

What is this study about?

As families with migrant and Singaporean members increasingly make up a part of our society, AWARE and SCC hope to leverage research to inform potential policies to provide better support for transnational families in Singapore. 

In collaboration with SCC, we would like to interview members of transnational families to learn about their goals, aspirations, needs and challenges. 

Who can participate?

  • You can participate in this research project if your household (i.e. siblings, children, parents or grandparents) consists of at least one migrant family member (i.e. not Singaporean/Permanent Resident) and at least one Singaporean family member.
  • Your household income per capita is $800 and below.
  • Participants must be at least 18 years old.
  • If you are aged 13 to 20 years old and would like to participate in the interview, we will need to seek your parent/guardian’s consent.

How can I register my interest? 

Please fill in this form to participate: https://bit.ly/transfamsignup 

How long will I be involved in the study?

We will conduct up to two rounds of interviews with the relevant family member(s), i.e. you and/or other family members willing to be interviewed for this study. 

Each interview will take around an hour. The first and second interview will be between four and six months apart in 2023/2024. If in-person interviews are not possible, online interviews will be via Zoom or WhatsApp voice call. Our research team will contact you to schedule the interview place and time at your convenience.

Will I be reimbursed for participating?

Yes. Each household will receive SG$60 for completing each interview session.

If you have any questions or concerns, please contact the research team at yokemun@aware.org.sg or researchexecutive@aware.org.sg.